Purity - What's the Point?

Let's go ahead and talk about purity. (I'm being inspired.)

The definition of purity - freedom from immorality especially of a sexual nature. How funny, freedom! We think of freedom as no curfew, doing whatever you please, maybe doing whomever you please. But it has the total opposite effect on you. (I'll talk about that later.)


Purity is freeing us from the one thing we should detest the most - sin. Purity is so beautiful and to strive for purity of the heart, body, soul, and mind is the best way to ever achieve the goal! It's always hard to not fall into the temptations of this world since it is everywhere...

For example, way back in 8th grade my friend came over to sleep at my house and we were watching a cute movie then decided to go outside for a while. We stayed outside till around 8 or 9 (I don't really remember, it was dark) and we wanted to come in and play the Wii. So I turned on the TV and right in front of my very young eyes was PORN. It was only 8 or 9 (my brothers go to bed later than that) and it was the same channel we had on that aired the cute little movie that we watched just a few hours back (which was not porn.) I started thinking about how if my little brothers were to turn on the TV and see that, they would have been more terrified than I was! Now of course, we screamed and started frantically pushing buttons on the TV trying to erase that from our eye sight and memory, so it didn't stay on that channel for long. 

BUT SERIOUSLY? Everywhere you turn there is some type of pornography/porn. Just in commercials for TV shows, ads on the internet, bill boards in the mall, MOVIES. It may not be the full blown porn but certainly has the power to put guys and girls into the state of temptation to lust.

So, what is the point of purity if it is so hard to maintain it?

-First, being pure is not lame. 

My purity is something I treasure, it is something my brothers can look up too, my husband can treasure, and my parents and all those who love me would appreciate. One of my most treasured items is my purity ring. Sometimes I look at it and smile, knowing that Christ has my heart, my everything, and through Christ my purity could not happen. I also think of my husband, my future kids, and all the blessings that will come with saving my virginity until marriage.

 Now just because I am a 'virgin' does not at all mean that I am 'pure'! You can still be labeled a virgin but still have struggles with your purity through your mind and body! Lustful thoughts, porn, oral sex, masturbation, hooking up, whatever else there is without doing the complete action of sex(in terms of pre-marital sex) - are all taking away from the beauty of purity and all that it holds within.  I know - it's hard to stay pure in today's world and to even want to stay pure. 

Even if you are not a virgin or if you are but you are not pure and desire to be pure - look to Jesus and His Resurrection! Jesus is where the healing begins. "BEHOLD, I make all things new." (Rev. 21:5). No one is an exception to purity. We are all called to it!

Also, just to throw in there. Even when you are married you are called to be pure! Purity doesn't stop at marriage. 

-Second, it is a sign of respect for God, myself, my husband,  parents, his parents, and anyone else who is in my life or will be. 

We are the temple of God - "Don't you realize that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourself." (1 Cor. 6:19). So whenever we stay pure in heart, mind, soul, body we are allowing the Holy Spirit to dwell in His temple, it's what we were created for! The Holy Spirit was meant for us. (Yay Pentecost!) When we do this out of respect for God, we are also doing it out of respect for all of the above. 

We are respecting our selves enough to realize that we weren't made for this lustful world to overcome us - we were made for MORE. "I have come, so that they may have life, life to the full." (John 10:10). We were all made and created at a price and we should cherish that enough to cherish ourselves and the beautiful gift of our virginity. 

We are respecting our spouse by waiting for them alone! By keeping yourself pure all these years for him/her. I mean in no way am I perfect, but I am so thankful that I have not put myself in a situation that would harm my virginity. How special it will be on that day whenever we get married and exchange rings that I could tell my husband "I am giving myself to you, and only you. No other man before or after you. YOU!" And then let's say you are called to religious life, well PERFECT! You can give EVERYTHING to Christ. No need to throw away your virginity if you are called, better the reason to protect it! How beautiful to enter the gates of heaven a Virgin of Christ!

-Third, purity frees you from sin! 

It is a virtue(chastity) - a quality considered morally good or desirable in a person. God did not create purity to just add to a things we shouldn't do. He created it for our own happiness, our own holiness. St. Augustine said, "Lust indulged became habit, and habit unresisted became necessity." St. Augustine knows just how horrible it is to fall out of purity but how beautiful it is to be freed from those things. When you are pure, you are not bound by the sin of lustful thinking etc. You are freed. I can't explain just how beautiful it is to see the pure goodness in things out of your own purity! 

The world tells you that  if you are a virgin by senior year or more terrifying - if you haven't hooked up with anyone by then, then apparently you  just haven't lived the "life". Which is completely irrelevant to living a good life. I haven't had sex or hooked up with anyone and I DO NOT regret it either. I thank God that I have even more to give to my husband, including my first kiss. Yup, it's true!! And guess what?! I haven't died yet. ;) I am completely free and through my actions ( or no actions) I am not bound to a person who has taken something valuable from me. Through Christ, in Christ, I find my comfort and joy and in Him I am completely satisfied. He guides me to live my life PURELY and through that I am not looking for worldly pleasures. I am free.

- Fourth, Why not stay pure? 

I mean nothing bad could ever come from staying pure. It's one of those things that if you practice it, you lose nothing but are able to gain a hundred fold! That is one reason it's a virtue. Purity bears fruit within it. 

"Purity prepares the soul for love, and love confirms the soul in purity."
 - Cardinal John Henry Newman

And even if you are not in a pure state and haven't been for a while there is always always the chance to dedicate your life and purity back to Christ and to your future husband(like I've stated above). Every new day is a day to live for Christ, and you can always choose to turn away from bad habits. It's hard, certainly, but through Christ nothing is impossible and He desires nothing but the best for you. Desire the best for yourself. You'll come to realize that this kind of freedom is not one easily to be lost when given at such a price. 

I'll give you a few ways that will help protect your purity.
  • Always pray.
  • Don't put yourself in any situation that would most likely end up harming your purity.
  • Girls -Put some clothes on. You are of much of the sin as the guy is who is lusting after you. Guys - just don't go to the mall. (Just kidding) Look away and think about your future wife. Perfect time to pray for her too:) Also, pray for the girl who isn't respecting herself and others.
  • Let it be known to others and yourself. Wear a purity ring if it helps you remember how precious your purity is to Jesus, others, and yourself.
  • Stray away from stupid magazines, tv shows, movies, internet sites - whatever it may be. Think about that person who is advertising themselves as someones daughter or son. Make up a name for them. Like Patrice or Mike? It helps with the realization that they are humans too.

May God bless and Mary protect.

"O Heart infinitely purer than the hearts of angels, the source of all purity,
 imprint on my heart a very special love of purity
 and a vivid horror of all that
 is contrary to it."

"Create in me a clean heart, O God,
and renew a right spirit within me."
- Psalm 51:10

St. Maria Goretti, pray for us!
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