To all gentlemen:
I want to acknowledge you all simply because you are real and you are worthy of it.
Having had bad experiences with guys in the past, I just want to say I’m sorry for considering you all jerks, because that is certainly not the case. I believe that I thought this way because of how I was portraying my body and myself. I realize now that I wasn’t looking for a guy to respect who I was created to be, but just for a guy to be there to compliment the body and the face given to me. This selfishness, of course, attracted selfishness. So I put myself around guys who really didn’t understand what it was to be a true man, and I in return, didn’t understand what it was to be a lady who had desires for affection, but for the affection of a King.
Since those years back, I have full awareness of my worth as a woman and as yall’s worth as men. Believe me, whenever a guy holds open a door for me, does something out of his way for me or compliments me, I am filled with joy. Not just because it’s for me, but also because I’m honored to allow him to do so. After attending a Theology of the Body Camp, I honestly couldn’t wait to come back and affirm all of those guys for their chivalrous actions. I learned so much over there and met so many wonderful, kind, beautiful. holy guys that I couldn’t possibly say anything negative about the male species as a whole from that point forward.
(I just want to tell a funny, little story. I went to a camp over the summer and it was for quite a few days, so I packed quite a few things. I had this HUGE bag of everything I needed and probably more. Sadly, it came to the point where we had to say our good-byes and head home. After saying all of my good-byes, my friend and I headed inside to get our stuff to go put in the car. Well, I was struggling; the bag was larger than half of me so my girl friend offered to carry it. I politely said something along the lines of, “Girl, I got this. I’m good.” Not a few steps later, this cute guy comes up to me asking if I wanted him to carry my bag out to the car, and I turned to my girl friend, then looked at him, and said, “Oh, yes! That would be great. Thank you so much!!” My friend didn’t realize until much later that I totally rejected her offer but sprung with joy when the guy offered to carry my bags. My friend and I still find it funny. Okay, end of story..)
Once I started recognizing that there are guys out there who are seeking holiness and purity in todays world, I started striving to be modest, to be polite to guys, to let them know that it’s okay for them to hold doors open for me, and to be the woman Christ is calling me to be so that you can be the man Christ is calling you to be.
Not also is it a huge witness for men to be chivalrous, but to be chivalrous in holiness. I can’t tell you how much my heart warms when I notice a guy that likes to have his Rosary with him everywhere he goes, a guy I accidentally interrupt praying in the local Adoration Chapel, sitting by a guy in the line to Confession, noticing he has on the chain that represents the consecration to Jesus through Mary etc. but importantly, a guy who truly finds his worth in Christ.
I’ve noticed that all of the gentlemen I have met and got to know are so sweet and by their actions and words, you can see Christ shining through them. (Not say they had everything spiritually figured out and were perfect, but simply that they were striving.) There is just something especially beautiful about a guy who is faithful to Christ. I can tell you, there could be the “perfect looking” guy standing in front of me, but if his heart isn’t concerned with Jesus’ heart, I would in no way be attracted to him. There is just something that turns off automatically when I see guys disrespect God, others, and themselves by his words and actions. I don’t know what it is that does that to me, but I call it a blessing.
So once again, I thank each and every one of you men who have heard and responded to the call of Christ in a way that gives us women, witness to faithfulness and goodness. And through the witness that you bring, I hope that we (as women) will respond in a way that can help increase holiness in men by respecting your mind, heart, and soul through our purity and modesty. “We must practice modesty, not only in our looks, but also in our whole deportment, and particularly in our dress, our walk, our conversation, and all similar actions”, according to Saint Alphonsus Liguori.
May God bless and Mary protect.
A Young Woman
Dear Lord, today I especially thank you for all of my brothers.
I pray that You will bring them desires for Your heart
and that you grant them protection from things that could harm their purity.
I pray that they may receive strength, hope and satisfaction from their calling to be "a man of Christ."
"One's pride will bring him low,
but he who is lowly in spirit will obtain honor."
- Proverbs 29:23
St. Joseph, pray for us!